I was super excited to ring in the new year this week. My husband and I had plans to leave town and party like rockstars with our friends. I even bought a super sexy sequined miniskirt for the occasion. But then I got the flu . . . The kind of flu that's so bad, you fee like you'll never live a normal, healthy life again.
It wasn't at all how I wanted to start off the year. The good news about starting at the bottom is there's no where to go but up. So in a weird way, I'm grateful for my flu.
2014 was an important year for me. I released my first novel, The Man Test, started a publishing company, and transitioned out of my new career as a financial adviser. It was a year of transformation. A year that I could reveal a truer me. Like new skin.
From now on, when I hear the words blood, sweat, and tears, I'm going to think about 2014. Why? Because I gave it everything, absolutely everything!
Sometimes, when you give everything, it's still not enough. Or maybe it's a matter of giving everything of the right thing. What I mean is that when I look back, some of my hard work was well spent, and some of it wasn't. So I've learned the valuable lesson of working smarter, not just harder.
That's why I'm so excited about 2015. It's an opportunity to do things better and settle into my new skin. This is also a big year for me because I'll be celebrating my 30th birthday this July. I can't freakin' believe it!
When I was young, I thought that by the time I was 30, I'd be settled in my career, with a husband, and a fancy house. I believed I would have made it, that I could coast until I died and walk off into the sunset. And while I do have a wonderful life and incredible people to share it with, including my husband, I certainly haven't "made it." In fact, I learned this past year that there is no such thing as making it. There is no walking off into the sunset. Sorry to break it to you.
It sounds cliche, but it's true. It's about the journey, which is kind of a relief. What matters is that you're on your way, you're heading somewhere. Hopefully it's somewhere that brings you joy, friends, wisdom, and most importantly brings you closer to a truer you.
Years ago, my husband inspired me to stop making superficial resolutions, but instead vow to become better by working on one thing about myself. I think he did this without knowing. Last year, I resolved to be more authentic and I can honestly say that it was the most authentic year of my life. I hope to continue that journey.
This year, my resolution is to create BALANCE! Tipping the scales has not been successful this past year. I know many of you tend to spread yourselves too thin. I have a PhD in overextending myself. And I've noticed that when it happens, everything suffers. . . especially me.
For me, creating balance means taking time to exercise, read, play, and not take everything so seriously! It also means that I likely won't get to where I'm going as quickly, which is the hardest part. But like I said, it's about the journey anyway. And I'll be damned if I don't enjoy my own journey.
So tell me, what did you take away from 2014 and what's your resolution for 2015?
If you've made it to the end of this blog . . . you're AWESOME! If not, you're still awesome only you don't know it because you didn't wait until the end for me to tell you. Then again, I shouldn't have to tell you you're amazing. You should already know.
Have an incredible year, and I look forward to hearing from you!
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